The trials and tribulations of an adventurous modern mom
Last night I was perusing through the latest copy of Origin Magazine, which I adore, and found an interview with the American popstar Jewel. I have always loved Jewel’s powerful lyrics and heartwarming voice yet I had no idea what an amazing inspiration she is when it comes to healing and dealing with pain.
Jewel grew up in Alaska in a broken family, moved away from home at the tender age of 15 and became homeless by 18. Although she has achieved major success as a singer, her life has had its share of sorrow, pain and difficulty. What I find most admirable about Jewel is how she dealt with life’s many struggles. She faced her pain head-on with courage and strength. The interview talks candidly about how she handles emotional pain and these particular few sentences stuck with me:
“I try not to avoid it. I give it time. I say to myself, sometimes the tide is just out. But it always comes back in again. In times of severe distress, we tend to get tunnel vision and think this feeling will last forever. It will not”.
Her powerful words of wisdom remind me that pain is perhaps one of the most difficult and unpleasant emotions we face in life but we cannot ignore it. Pain must be faced, and only when we face our worries, fears and pain can we get stronger and carry on.
Jewel also talked about anxiety and distress, and how damaging these emotions can be on your outlook in life. I have always been a worrywart especially when it comes to my children and people I love. Going through my father’s cancer diagnosis and all the uncertainty with the results and the future has lead me to become extremely anxious and the worry has kept me up for many nights. Yet as Jewel says in her interview with Maranda Pleasant of Origin Magazine and in her beautiful song called “Hands”:
“If you could tell the world just one thing, it would be that we are all ok. And not to worry because worry is wasteful and useless in times like these. Don’t be made useless or idle with despair. Gather yourself around your strength for light does the darkness most fear. Our hands are small but they are our own and are never broken. In the end, only kindness matters”.
Thank you Jewel for inspiring me and encouraging me to face my fears and pain. I have been in extremely challenging times before in my journey of life. And like you say, the tide will always come back in.