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The Tide will come in

Last night I was perusing through the latest copy of Origin Magazine, which I adore, and found an interview with the American popstar Jewel. I have always loved Jewel’s powerful lyrics and heartwarming voice yet I had no idea what an amazing inspiration she is when it comes to healing and dealing with pain.

Jewel grew up in Alaska in a broken family, moved away from home at the tender age of 15 and became homeless by 18. Although she has achieved major success as a singer, her life has had its share of sorrow, pain and difficulty. What I find most admirable about Jewel is how she dealt with life’s many struggles. She faced her pain head-on with courage and strength. The interview talks candidly about how she handles emotional pain and these particular few sentences stuck with me:

“I try not to avoid it. I give it time. I say to myself, sometimes the tide is just out. But it always comes back in again. In times of severe distress, we tend to get tunnel vision and think this feeling will last forever. It will not”.

Sunset in Roatan, Honduras

Sunset in Roatan, Honduras. January 2012

Her powerful words of wisdom remind me that pain is perhaps one of the most difficult and unpleasant emotions we face in life but we cannot ignore it. Pain must be faced, and only when we face our worries, fears and pain can we get stronger and carry on.

Jewel also talked about anxiety and distress, and how damaging these emotions can be on your outlook in life. I have always been a worrywart especially when it comes to my children and people I love. Going through my father’s cancer diagnosis and all the uncertainty with the results and the future has lead me to become extremely anxious and the worry has kept me up for many nights. Yet as Jewel says in her interview with Maranda Pleasant of Origin Magazine and in her beautiful song called “Hands”:

“If you could tell the world just one thing, it would be that we are all ok. And not to worry because worry is wasteful and useless in times like these. Don’t be made useless or idle with despair. Gather yourself around your strength for light does the darkness most fear. Our hands are small but they are our own and are never broken. In the end, only kindness matters”.

Thank you Jewel for inspiring me and encouraging me to face my fears and pain. I have been in extremely challenging times before in my journey of life. And like you say, the tide will always come back in.


Roatan, Honduras Barefoot Cay

5 comments on “The Tide will come in

  1. LuAnn
    November 15, 2013

    Nicole, I too have always loved Jewel’s music and more so after I read her background story. For me, always being a Type A and a worrywart like you say you are, I began to practice meditation. It took some time to settle my mind and some days even now it is difficult but I find it has a calming effect on me. I have also read many spiritual books over the years and have found that I embrace many of the Buddhist tenets. One thing I have learned is to always remember that all things are impermanent, so all emotions, even those that feel the worst, will pass. Even 10 minutes of sitting quietly and focusing on something like the breath can help to center and calm you. Take care!

    • thirdeyemom
      November 18, 2013

      Thanks LuAnn! I tried meditation at the studio and had a hard time as it felt good but then I just started crying. The restorative yoga has some meditation in it so I like that as it isn’t too much for me to handle now. This is so stressful but I know I will get through it.

      • LuAnn
        November 19, 2013

        Yoga certainly does have a component of meditation to it. Even sitting quietly for a few minutes alone, concentrating on just your breath may help. And let the tears flow, my friend. That is what living in the present is all about, acknowledging all that comes. It sounds like you might need a little cleansing in the form of tears and some deep breaths! 🙂

      • thirdeyemom
        November 19, 2013

        I’ve been trying to do that especially at night. I think having young active children (as much as I love them) also raises the stress level as I don’t have much down time at night. So yoga has been during the day and when I can’t sleep in the middle of the night I do the breathing too. I will try to do a little before bed to see if that helps. WOuld love to have a sound night sleep without my mind being so busy and keeping me up!

      • LuAnn
        November 20, 2013

        I don’t have small children around so I can only imagine how difficult it is to find any quiet time to yourself. I have always had difficulty getting a good night’s rest because I could not shut off my mind. That is the reason I originally tried meditation and it does not always work for me, but it has helped over time.

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